Love, thou art indeed magical…

Six months ago, few would have dreamt even in their wildest dreams that the infallible Ritwik, who – for the uninformed – is me, would be so unabashedly, blissfully happy! Actually happy isn’t the word, euphoric is more like it. Or should I say, these have been the days, those moments of human interaction that last you a lifetime.

So, what has really happened in the last six months that has brought about this incredible metamorphosis?

Well, even for the “vocabularily-gifted” like me, words – in these moments – are hard to find. Having been a staunch believer, over the years, that words can convey the deepest of human emotions, today I find myself challenging this long-standing belief.

An identity is a highly underrated notion. Your identity – I believe is who you are. And this description transcends dictionary boundaries. What I mean by this, is that who you believe you are, really turns out to be deciding factor in shaping the ‘real you’. If I think I’m fat, well then that’s it. That’s who I am! I will never look at clothing stores, not because I don’t want to, but because I believe I will never find anything my size, let alone facing the embarrassment of the store person tell you, “Sir, we do not have an XXXXXL”. You will never want to go to a beach because the fear of seeing yourself without a shirt is scary. You will never want to look into the mirror, because it would mean standing a kilometer away from the mirror for all of YOU to fit in it. You will never want to dance because dancing may mean you cramping your “Super sized pectoral muscles”. And in sometime, as Newton’s’ First Law of Motion defines, the inertia in your life will make you want to stop living!

Today my identity stands revamped, refurbished. And what this does for me, is, not only do I now have a new “me”, I also have a “She” – Niyati. Not in my wildest dreams could I’ve imagined that anyone could take over my life in such a short span of time and renovate it, while I am ‘living the life’.

This blog is my way of letting go of the emotional “pressure cooker”. And for the first time, in a long time, letting go of the whistle is to let out gushing pleasure, sheer uninhibited pleasure.

My girlfriend is someone who I would’ve never thought would be my ‘girlfriend’. Why? Because, I never felt that someone like her would settle for someone like me. Yes, I’m me and I’m the best blah, blah, blah… but it’s been a while that I had someone literally sweep me off my feet. I fail to fathom how in 15weeks I feel so unbelievably fulfilled.

So well, for the one’s who’ve attended my seminars and are aware of the “Six Fundamental Human Needs” – here’s a scorecard!

(By the time you finish reading the scorecard and the synopsis, even the slightly “logically-challenged” section of my readers would be able to comprehend my fanatic love for this woman! Read on…

Pre-Niyati :

Certainty : 2
Uncertainty : 9
Significance : 9
Love & Connection ; 2
Growth : 7
Contribution : 4


Post-Niyati :

Certainty : 7
Uncertainty : 9
Significance : 10
Love & Connection ; 9
Growth : 9
Contribution : 9

What’s caused the difference?

Certainty :

Before I knew Niyu, I had no idea what I wanted out of my life. Inspired by Baz Luhrmans’ now immortal Wear Sunscreen where he says - ”Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what to do with your life...the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.” - I just went about my business everyday, just because the sun rose.

Now, everyday has a new meaning. There are times when you just wade through a day waiting for evening when it’d be day (EST) to talk to Niyu !!! There is so much of assurance in the fact that no matter what, no matter whom, I’m working towards being with her. This is better than ANY goal setting session I have ever conducted / been part of / held at IPCA!!! ;-)

Uncertainty :

This aspect remains unchanged as genetically I’m a very ‘happening’ person! Some or the ‘thing’ is always ‘happening’ to me – then AND now !

Significance :

Yes I felt incredibly significant during my training sessions / seminars previously however the fact that this significance is just momentary was always at the back of my mind.

Now, I have perennial significance in someone’s life. NOONE, not my most ardent followers, have ever made me feel as important as my girl does. She calls me ritWikipedia… ;-) Now that’s some weight to carry around !


Love & Connection :

This ‘need’ was never really on my priority list before. Now, on hindsight, I feel perhaps I knew I’d never get it hence I’d unchecked it off my ‘priority list’.

Today, I know, no matter how close or how far, there is someone who loves me as much as I love her, at times I do admit (just to myself) more than I love her. She has reaffirmed my belief in relationships. Niyati, undoubtedly is the best part of my day.

Growth :

This is a need I incredibly value. Before I met Niyati my growth (even though abundant) was restricted to financial growth and my career.

Today, after six months with Niyati, I can say I’ve evolved as a person, as a partner, as a son and as a friend in more ways than I could have ever imagined.

Contribution :

My contribution to other peoples’ lives has always been ‘profound’ for lack of a better word. Be it my “sexual counseling” in my college days or being the shoulder to cry on later on in life, or during my seminars, I’ve always been a “giver”.

With Niyati, I can see my contribution not just immensely valued but very well executed. The other day I got an email from her talking about how my contribution – direct or indirect – got her good grades. It’s a surreal feeling. At times paternal too! J


Need I say more? I’m pretty much at a loss for words in how to close this blog. I leave the rest for you to figure!

Cheers! J